It happens only in...Movies.

The first breeze of love in air brings in butterflies in the stomach of every normal being. It gives the best adrenaline rush ever and never let's you stay still. Needhi is high school student, not so popular but definitely talented and studious. Sitting on the first bench...her eyes found something more interesting than the blackboard and the equations written on it...Its her Crush... ;) :D

And while the classroom turned into a garden with waterfalls and violins played in air, she gathered all her courage to get up to reach him and said. "Listen, open your ears and mind and get it for once that from now you are mine....blah blop blap...Aa...." What's happening...!!! The class is noisier than a fish market and she woke up to reality to find neither violins and nor waterfalls. It happened but only in Needhi's head. "Alas...", she said to herself, "It happens only in Movies." and pensively looked away outside the window at a woman sitting alone in the park on a bench.

This is Laura,a business woman, a wife and a wonderful mother as well... Its 5pm and she is overjoyed to see the husband Daniel coming to her... not as tired as usual, but dressed up well, looking fresh and probably hiding something behind... what is it? Her mind thinks of so many possibilities..." Is it a big rose like the one he gave me the first time we met..." she said to herself, smiling wider than usual. "All this, at the same place; it would be so romantic like a flash back ! Or may be there is this entire bouquet of my favorite yellow flowers just like the evening he had proposed me here..." And while she was done with her over thinking and speculations, Daniel stood before her and placed a cellphone over her face...Whaaat.....Laura is so confused... the harsh ringing cellphone.....blah blop blap.... Its her cell phone ringing and its Daniel calling...

As she picked up the phone she spoke hurriedly..."Dear...I am on the same bench where would always meet during our college... How can you take so long to find it ...Come fast..." And Daniel on the other hand lost even the two minutes that he had borrowed to speak and hanged up the call on the order of his boss...leaving behind an auto-message....Call me later? Busy in a meeting. Laura sat still, dispppointed, a bit angry and wondered "Happy Marriage Anniversaries only happen in Movies... sigh..."

As she sat in dismay, an old couple walked by. They looked calm and held each others hand...

It was like an ultimate symbol of content and peace...Utter bliss...but only until another old lady confronted the old gentleman and screamed. "Gattu !!! you better don't forget your specs before taking me for a walk next time."  Grandpa hurriedly took his hand away and did the rightful...apologized both the ladies. :D

Relationships are weird...but beautiful in their own way. Some like Needhi need Courage...Some like Laura's need Time and some like grandpa...well,  he just needs to carry his specs, right?! :D Yeah...and while the  reality v/s expectation check is almost always disappointing, the best thing to do is not imagine and expect. For example, Needhi might be missing out on another guy who might be secretly falling for her instead and Daniel might have just planned a surprise dinner back home while Laura sat disappointed in the same old park...Well, for things to happen in real...we first need to live in the real world which is why it is apt to live the moment... :D Stop Expecting and Start Living. Look around and you will find a reason to smile :)

Let GO...EGO!

Ego is...thinking of self as a creator. Creator of joy, money and sometimes even life. The number of times we say 'I', 'me', 'myself' is a simple measure of our ego. It is like considering oneself responsible for the consequence of something. However we ourselves never really do anything. We are just an aggregation of energies that are held together in a constructive way.

 

Which is why people and their thoughts affect us and the environment around us. Nature by itself has certain characteristics i.e gunas and our act is a product of interaction of our energies with that of natures'. Taking a credit of an achievement or for that matter even a blame of a mistake on just ourselves is hence not justified. We often relate the quality of ego to the riches who are too proud of their wealth.  However a person who works hard in life and rises up gradually the ladder of success may secretly be too proud of having made it to the top. This is also forms ego. And in neither case does it do good to the respective persons.

Irony is... we do require ego in order to stay alive. Because we work to earn and feed ourselves and this is not possible without that pinch of ego. It is like the pinch of salt that is absolutely essential for a tasty meal. But too much of it is far from fit to eat; forget taste. Krishna, before reciting the famous Bhagwat Geeta to Arjun, had said that in order to take in knowledge, we need to empty our minds of ego and make space for the needful. Centuries later great Scientist Albert Einstein said something similar like the one seen here.

Easier to understand... yeah :P ... Coming back to our tasty food with the pinch of salt we know that food without salt is still eatable and probably more healthy. And on similar lines life is also possible by completely dropping ego. It is possible by doing our work without the expectations of enjoying the delights of its fruit. Whether or not you get the fruit is a different story. But the idea of selfless act is a definite step towards living a life without ego. You work for the love of work and not for the salary you will be getting in the end of month...which you will get anyways...isn't it!  In fact when you do not expect anything and get something, it comes to you as a surprise ... And who does not love surprises. ;-) Realize this and understand the hidden message "GO" in the word EGO itself. It quite tells you what you are supposed to do with it :D Lets all head-start this amazing year with a small commitment of doing smart, sensible and "selfless" work :D